Expressions of Fear
Being brave isn't the absence of fear. Being brave is having that fear and finding a way through.
~ Bear Grylls
As we've learned from the Law of Attraction, our power of imagination may be such that we actually bring about the thing that we fear—especially when imagination is coupled with emotion and energy.
Imagination + Energy + Emotion = the formula for manifestation.
When we worry and are fearful, we live in a state of generalized stress while hoping to avoid anticipated misery, and in the process, we are inadvertently attracting the very thing we fear.
Although there are countless ways a person can experience stress or fear, in my years of research and case studies, I've become aware that the root of this stress is typically a limited view of the world/reality, or a deep misalignment or contradiction within the individual’s values. It also indicates that this person is not living in the present.
While irrational, for many of us, worry and fear are major components of our stress-filled days—and sleepless nights.
To gauge your "fear quotient," check the statements below that ring true to you:
- It’s best to leave things alone. As long as I can tolerate the situation, I’ll just keep things as they are.
- I doubt if I will ever marry again. Relationships always seem to end in betrayal.
- I need to stay on top of all my projects. No one else will do it the way it needs to be done.
- Who can really know what's right for themselves? I am safer following the rules of authority (parents, church, peer groups, etc.) rather than creating my own path.
- Stability is built from "tried and true" and "staying on the straight and narrow." Society would be too chaotic if we didn't all live by our sense of duty and obligation.
- I don't want to know about spirits or my future. Something bad may be out there. I'll stick to what I know and can predict.
These statements reflect categories of frequently exhibited signs of fear or worry. But a healthy, fearless perspective offers a different view of these categories. Consider the following:
Change: Change is natural and beneficial. It's required for growth and improvement. If everything remained static, there would be no possibility for a raise, a better job, that new relationship, weight loss, and the attainment of any other goals.
Trust: Everyone demonstrates their true values and virtues. It is up to each of us to recognize and act on that information. Having the courage and conviction to remain true to ourselves allows us to experience the greatest possible level of trust in ourselves and others.
Control: We can only ethically control ourselves—not others. Attempting to control others rarely produces the results that are truly desired. Giving up the attempt to control situations requires confidence and courage to handle events and experiences that may show up in our lives. Preventing others from controlling us requires strong boundaries, independence, and self-determination.
Guilt: Guilt has only one purpose. It alerts us to the possibility that we have done something counter to reality or to our personal philosophy and values. When this is true, a correction must be made as rapidly as possible. Then release the guilt. If the guilty feeling is unfounded, there is no purpose in maintaining it. Guilt is often used as a means for controlling others, so beware of the motivations of those who attempt to impose such feelings.
Duty or Obligation: Free choice is imperative when living a life of purpose, according to your highest values, and results in a life of health and happiness. Acting out of duty or obligation implies that the individual’s value system would dictate a different course of action. For instance, consider the difference in energy if your friend helps you move because he or she feels they had to out of duty vs. because they really enjoy spending time with you and helping you out.
The Unknown: There are more unknowns than knowns in life. And while that may feel uncomfortable, there are ways to bolster individual strengths to manage the unknown on a more solid footing. Increase knowledge, sharpen intuition, work on physical strength and financial stability, plan ahead, organize our time and space, and increase our energetic mass. The more prepared you are for any event or situation, the less you have to fear. These same preparations can also be made on other levels of our existence when dealing with the spiritual world.
There is more energy in the suppression than in the expression.
When we live a fear-based life, more energy is directed toward suppressing our passions and energy than would be used in simple, honest expression. What I mean is that when we hold back from living life fully, from fulfilling our dreams and being true to ourselves, we expend much more effort than when we freely use our energy to manifest our purpose and gifts.
Similarly, when we avoid looking at the dark side of ourselves, we block a valuable key to our self-knowledge, growth, and safety when dealing with others.
In one way or another, everyone does this to a degree. We hold back from disclosing a part of our beliefs because we expect others to criticize them. Or we resist pursuing our passion or purpose because it may not bring the same paycheck as another career path. Or we may refuse to acknowledge a person's sinister side or intentions, giving them the benefit of the doubt when our intuition is showing us red flags.
Resistance to the expression of our true nature requires a tremendous amount of energy, whether we hold back in life because we fear the opinions of others or because of our own fears of inadequacy, or the thought of starting over, being exposed, or being vulnerable.
As holistic practitioners, we have the honor of holding space and delivering valuable tools for our clients so they can remove blocks and freely move toward their highest purpose. Effective techniques to address these issues, and more, are covered in my Integrative Hypnotherapy and Past Life Regression certification training.